We are often highly motivated at the beginning of the week when we are setting goals for ourselves. It seems easy to write out a list to design the most incredible version of ourself possible. As the week goes on, however, we sometimes lose that motivation and put off our goals to the next week. The most crucial consideration here is: are we setting the right goals?
The signs of the right goals
There are a few ways to know if the goals we have set are appropriate:
- The right goals set realistic expectations. At the end of the day, only you know yourself. Is the goal you have set achievable? More importantly, is it achievable in the time frame you have set for yourself? Its great to aim high and push yourself, but it is also demotivating when we simply cannot achieve to that level. Rather, take the goal down a notch and break the larger goal into smaller pieces. This will avoid overwhelm and you will be more committed.
- The right goals will allow you to feel in charge and autonomous in your own life. If goals are set by others, we often feel accountable to them for a while. However, we need to motivate ourselves in the long run. In this way, we will see sustainable change.
- The right goals will set you up for long-term inspiration. If we follow exercise or eating plans that do not feel good or are too much preparation, they will not be sustainable. You need to be working with routines that make sense to you and that you can maintain over a long period of time.
- The right goals are based on your own intrinsic motivation. This means that the goals you set have meaning for you. You know the reasons behind why you want to achieve what you want to achieve. Your goals are not set to make other people proud or happy – they are for your own progress!
- The right goals lead to action. When you really want to realize your goals, you will do what you can to make it happen. Set goals that inspire you and get to work NOW!
So take an honest look at your goals and make sure they are realistic.
Consider what skills you will need to achieve your goals and get to work on those skills.
Look at the outcomes of your goals and turn them into behavioural changes that you can make.
Focus on what you can do, instead of what not to do.
Lastly, enjoy and celebrate the wonderful process of growth you experience.
Have a great day.
Lots of light and love xx